Train yourself to think different & Guard your heart

Fears, Feelings, & Guarding Your Heart... 

So many of the decisions that we make in life are all based on our thoughts, fears, and feelings. The bible clearly says that our feelings lie! Our heart can deceive us. 
" The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?" Jeremiah 17:9
I guess the popular phrase "just trust your heart" isn't really the best advice.

If we are afraid of what others think of us, we will choose to do things based on that fear. If we think negatively about our image, we will in turn do things in a negative light. 

We can't rely on our feelings or fears to be logical. The things that we think on are often driven by our fleshly desires. So, if we think differently, we will make different decisions && we will get different results.

Things in your life will influence the decisions you make...

Your influences:
- who do u surround yourself with? 
- are you hanging around with the types of people you want to be like? 
- are you spending time with friends who want to grow in Christ or who only care about worldly things?

What you fill your mind with:
- are you reading books that will help you grow or are you always reading tabloid magazines and love stories?
- are you constantly spending time on Facebook or twitter being a busy body... Caring about what other people ate for dinner that day or who posted the latest duck lips pics?
- what types of tv shows and movies do you watch? Are you watching things that promote sex, immodesty, and bullying? Or are you watching movies that are uplifting and encouraging?

We must saturate ourselves with whatever it is we want to become. 

Well, I used to fill my mind and heart with reality shows, tabloids, and useless information about anyone and everyone's lives on Facebook. I used to put value in all of these things.
 I used to be a busy body. Insecure. I used to compare myself to other people. I found myself wanting things that they had.
I used to spend time with people who cared ALOT about what other people's perceptions were of them. I started caring about what other people thought of me too. I also began acting differently to try and gain acceptance from these people.
I was so unhappy deep down even though I always made sure to put on a happy face and post pictures of my "fabulous" life on Facebook so that everyone would think I had it all together. It was all fake. All an illusion. 

I'm so thankful that the Lord knocked me off my feet and showed me that I was looking for approval in all the wrong places. He showed me that I needed to renew my mind. "Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind" Romans 12:2. If I wanted to stop acting like someone I wasn't, trying to find approval from others, always desiring what others had, and  stop feeling insecure I needed to change my thinking. Change the things I filled my mind with and put into my heart. 

So.....
- I began reading Gods word more
- I started reading Christian personal growth books
- I stopped reading tabloids and fashion magazines
- I deleted my Facebook so that I wouldn't compare myself to others.
- I began spending time around people from my church. I joined a bible study. 
- I stopped watching movies that I felt God would not want His beloved child to be filling her heart with 
- I started to thank God constantly for all of the things He blessed me with and for His love and grace
- I slowly started focusing on changing and growing the qualities of my heart

 You will duplicate what you surround yourself with... Good or bad

- never settle
- always strive to get better
- pursue excellence

- you have to be willing to do what it takes to change... 

- when you are doing the right things for a long enough period of time it will create good habits and will retrain your thinking

- you can decide to do it, BUT you must take action and you must continue to make changes on a DAILY basis... it is crucial that we stay on point day by day to continue to work towards what we set out to do.
 Here are some more tips to making a change!
1. Serve others, not yourself. We should strive to have this mindset in all things we do.Serving others is counter cultural...
2. take action when you do not feel like it, so that the right mindset sets in.
3. Above all else, protect your heart!  Be on guard with the things that you fill it up with. "Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it." Proverbs 4:23
4. Pray that God will help you and work in your heart. Pray that He will guard your heart.

I am no longer the insecure, approval seeker that I once was. I no longer compare myself to others and fill my mind with negative things. I strive to guard my heart and keep it pure. 

I'm so much more secure. So much happier. Confident. Loving. Kind. Mature. Gracious. Godly. My heart is in a better condition than it was before, when I filled it with worldly things. I thank God for that. It is only by His grace. Only through the sanctification of His word. 

What are some of the things you think you should cut out of your life?

Do you seek to please the people of this world more than God?

You're not alone. I still struggle with my fleshly desires. I'm just better equipped now than i used to be to say No to myself on a daily basis. I still screw up... But God is still helping me. 


I'm not where I need to be but thank God I'm not where I used to be!

15 comments:

  1. Beautiful post so beautifully said!!!

    Thank you Kylie for your transparency!

    Keep writing and keep shining!
    Courtney :)

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  2. This is exactly what I needed to read.Honestly,thank you.
    I'm 18, still in high school ,so seeking approval is "important" to me . I've honestly gotten to the point that I just don't care what others say.It takes too much energy and I just don't fit in with people like them, but I guess their approval felt better than sitting by myself in a corner. Anyways, I'm done with that. I feel like I have more in common with the people at my church that I don't know, than the people I've known for the past four years. lol anyways thanks again(: <3 God bless !

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  3. Kylie,
    I am so glad that some of the lies of the modeling industry have been exposed. I have been wondering when the media will move away from the current supermodel image, because I know it is only been a BIG thing of the past 30 years or so (vs. the Marilyn Monroe age)I am so thankful to have read your story because it gives even more validity to the fact that THIS WORLD DOES NOT SATISFY, only Jesus does! I felt like I had stumbled upon gold when I heard your story. I can't wait to continue to encourage my friends and those younger than me to cultivate inner beauty and LOOK AT THE HEART :)
    [1 Samuel 16:7]
    But the LORD said to Samuel, "Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The LORD does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart."
    Keep up the godly work!
    -Sarah D, 18.

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  4. Thank you for putting this out there! I am constantly frustrated and can barely respect people who tell me to follow my heart. Also, it was just what I needed to hear, the thing about guarding your mind and heart from evil. Keep it up, liv

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  5. Dear Kylie,

    I came across your article "I gave up modeling for God" published in the New York Post and I was greatly encouraged! I thank God that He led you back to Him and that you are using your experiences to reach others and glorify His name!

    My name is Nismah and I am a student at the Word of Life Bible Institute in Schroon Lake, NY (www.wordoflife.edu in case you're curious)and have been studying God's Word all year long.

    One of the most beautiful portions of scripture that came to my mind when I read your story is found in Matthew 16:24-26 in which Jesus talks about denying ourselves and taking up our crosses to follow Him. I see this exemplified in your testimony and I praise God for it!!

    I want you to know that I am praying for you, your husband, your marriage and your ministry- I know that God will be faithful in using you to reach people. It's incredible- I came across your article by chance- or not! :)- on Facebook and I felt convicted to keep you in my prayers.

    I encourage you to stay strong!! Continue to put the Lord first, to bless His name, to do His work and to let Him conform you to His image!! You are a great encouragement to me and I am sure to many others. But, most importantly, God is being glorified through you- and for that I praise Him!!

    Run Strong!
    Your Sister in Christ,
    Nismah Osman

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  6. Hi Kylie, I love your story. I have a blog too about the peace that Jesus gives. I hope you can read it sometime. http://sabbathsermons.com/category/let-this-mind-be-in-you-seminar/

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  7. good stuff. God will honor you for honoring Him, stay blessed!!!

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